the 1times1 universal code of tango etiquette
On When You Really Don't Want To Dance
When you really don't want to dance you really should not dance. The problem arises when you REALLY don't want to dance with Howard YET at the same time you REALLY could, well maybe, okay, if you insist, possibly be convinced to to dance with Tango God Andrew who Just Arrived On The Scene (of course AFTER your vividly expressed to Howard your superlative lethargy and unwillingness to dance.)
The problems are intensified and made super-duper complicated when, for instance, you find yourself seated on a cunning settee smack between Howard and Andrew.
One should not hurt the feelings of even mediocre dancers.
I find this rule
very hard to live by.